Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Training our daughters to be mothers
I don't know about you but having daughters is so fun and hard and sweet and stressful and wonderful....and well, if you have daughters you know. If you have KIDS, you know.
One thing I've instilled in my daughters, mostly through brainwashing, is how to be a mom. Brainwashing may be too strong of a word. You decide:
Mom, what's the best way to have a baby?
At home without a doctor.
Mom, what's the best way to feed a baby?
With the breast.
Mom, where should babies sleep?
In bed with their mommies, so you can breastfeed them.
Brainwashing? Not really.
I'm kidding people, kidding.
They've seen these things and have learned them from me doing them.
They've learned to care for their siblings and thereby have a great start at knowing how to mother.
These days Kati helps with Jerusha ANY chance she gets. She LOVES babies. Usually at rest time I will leave her in the living room to play with Jerusha while I lay down with Asa, to help him go to sleep. She had the privilege of putting her to sleep one afternoon.
Should have seen her! She was beaming all afternoon. She had that precious feeling of putting a baby to sleep. It's an amazing feeling as a mom. She got to feel that. She wants to put her to sleep every day now. She asks me every day if she can. She just rocked in her the chair.
Yesterday I put the sling on her and let her walk around with that. See? More brainwashing. It's subtle people. Subtle. She wanted to do it again today. Wearing your baby is delightful and she got to experience that.
Kori babysits for us about once a week, for a few hours. Again, this is training her. She learns how to organize her time and play with the children while at the same time being in charge. This is something that she really enjoys. As odd as it sounds she always gives them baths. They LOVE it and so does she. I know it's odd. True, though.
And Millicent, only four, is not too young to be indoctrinated, I mean, taught. She nurses her babies and carries them in slings. It's so amazing to watch her be sweet and cuddly with Jerusha. She also makes sure that Asa is okay and has what he needs. She encourages him and helps him during the day.
I'm training them now to be mothers. Someday I'll be looking into the faces of their children and I don't want to fail them. You know?
What do you do to train your children, especially your daughters, to be moms? Yeah, I guess you wouldn't be training your sons to be moms. You could be training them to be fathers. Or maybe not. Maybe you aren't training them to be fathers. But if you are, what are you doing?
Posted by Michelle at 7:00 AM