Our Courtship (the short version)

What I really wanted was to be married and for God to bless me with more children. I had a teenage daughter from a previous marriage, whose father wasn't around. She needed a good, loving father, and I wanted a husband. I waited and waited, sometimes patiently, but usually begging God to send me a mate.

When He finally said yes, I joined Eharmony. The process was simple. I decided how far in communication I wanted to go and how much information I wanted to give. The first three stages helped me to weed out anyone I wasn't completely compatible with. Then we could exchange pictures, if I desired, and get to know one another via their email system. I hadn't dated since I got saved and God quickly showed me that his choice for me was not to "date" but to save my feelings and desires for the man I would marry. So I was very cautious of that.

My 3rd stage question was blunt and to the point. How do you feel about sex before marriage? The first person that made it through that stage was Jeff. Surprisingly, many men who claimed to be Christian gave an answer other than, “sex before marriage is a sin”. But not Jeff. We began sending emails and getting to know one another. I was stricken by how intelligent he was. It wasn't long before we were calling and talking. I would hurriedly check my email each morning before work to see if he had emailed me.

It took some time for him to persuade me to meet. He came over with his two daughters, who needed a mom more than anything, and spent the day with us. He helped me get some "man" stuff done around the house. I cooked a nice meal for everyone. We all liked each other.

The next weekend he wanted to take me out. During the week I decided that he was just okay and probably not the guy for me. But the moment he walked in the door I was over that. I immediately knew God sent him to me, I just knew. We had a nice date in a bookstore with Ashlea and her friends chaperoning. We asked questions of each other all day. Every question we had, the other had the perfect answer. It was unbelievable. When I told him I wanted foster children, he did too. Later on when I told him I didn't want to celebrate santa, he didn't either. I was blown away.

God gave us so many signs along the way to assure us that we were on the right path with one another. After knowing each other for four months we got married. We are four years strong, and two more children later, very happy.